No, The Postpartum Period Is Not Always Rosy – Being Parents

No, a mom’s postpartum period isn’t always rosy. Because they often have no more strength, because the body is aching, there are many fears …

The lack of sleep sets in and the needs of the small are infinite. There are few times in life that are as complex and delicate as this stage, for which no one has been able to prepare you.

If you are going through a complex, difficult and painful postpartum period, there are surely many people around you who advise you to take things calmly, and do your best to take advantage of this sweet time of motherhood. .

These types of phrases probably hide the fear of many in your family,  that we might fall into postpartum depression, which is quite common.

However, what is not known is that there are different degrees of the disease. There are a lot of nuances in between which mean that we are not in a real depression, which could be diagnosed as such. These depressive states are grouped in the  category of “Baby Blues”.

We are sure that talking about this topic will be of great help to you after you give birth.

The postpartum period, the Baby Blues period

If there is one situation that a mother experiences when she arrives home after giving birth, it is this: feeling that she has “an obligation to feel happy, to be happy. at 100% of her capacities and to think that she is having the best moments of her life ”.

And without a doubt, she is living them, or rather she will live them, but a few months later. When her body has got used to it, when her hormones are rebalanced, and when all her fears, pains, uncertainties and anxieties are over. She will then be able to feel much more serene in her new role of mother.

These are undoubtedly times when we need the support of our loved ones more than ever. This is the period during which the partner must experience what the mother feels even more intensely and must not hesitate to be a real half, essential to her daily life.

And of course, this is a stage during which we must be able to count on the help and advice of grandmothers or other mothers, who have also been there before us.

You feel a certain sadness and it’s normal, you are experiencing the Baby Blues

Almost 80% of mothers experience a feeling of sadness that is difficult to define during the postpartum period. It may sound like a lot to you, but it really is normal and common.

This psychological phenomenon is defined as nostalgia for pregnancy or the “Baby Blues”. This evocative name contains a very common reality among new mothers. It is explained by the following elements:

• The change of hormones in the body
• Having so many new responsibilities
• Physical exhaustion after childbirth, which we do not recover so easily, because of his new obligations as a mother
• A personal repositioning: we are now mothers, perhaps for the first time, or perhaps already experienced. But in the latter case, it can even mean more responsibilities and challenges to overcome.

You have to distinguish between the baby blues and postpartum depression, which are not the same thing.

It is a state we are in: we immerse ourselves in an ocean of inexplicable sadness for about 2 weeks, or maybe a little more than 15 days. And we feel as in a kind of fog which locks us in irritability, tears and anguish.

But don’t worry, it’s often something that will pass. After 2 weeks, this baby blues and its sad melody disappear to give way to another more intense and more wonderful music, which fills new tones and motivations (even if the fatigue is still present).

How do you tell the difference between Baby Blues and postpartum depression?

Postpartum depression

• Postpartum depression is a serious emotional state disorder
• It can appear unexpectedly throughout the first year after childbirth, not necessarily right after.
• It often lasts between 10 and 15 months

• The mother is not able to take care of herself and the baby and feels completely overwhelmed
• 10% of women suffer from this type of depression
• Sometimes this depression occurs because of emotional problems with the spouse, or because these women are not working. It can also be caused by the feeling of not feeling supported in this new stage which is presented to them.
• Postpartum depression can be overcome with medication and therapy.

The “Baby Blues”

• This sensation occurs right after childbirth
• It is a feeling of sadness and irritability that can last, as we said, a little more than 15 days
• There is no need to take any medication or go to a psychologist. In this case, talking with your partner is a good therapy, as well as with our parents or our friends. This momentary cloud eventually dissipates on its own over time.

To conclude, as you can understand, the feeling of being completely dejected after the birth of the baby is something normal.

Sometimes society itself, with the traditional idea that any woman who has just given birth to her baby is fully satisfied and full of energy, puts too much pressure on the mom. What all mothers need after childbirth is support from loved ones, time, and peace of mind.